Written by Mary Joncas, Master's Level Counseling Intern Alliance Counseling Works, LLP
Self-harm is a complex and often misunderstood issue that affects many people worldwide. It’s not just a teenage phase or a cry for attention—it’s a serious mental health concern that deserves compassionate understanding.
What is Self-Harm?
Self-harm, also known as non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI), is the act of deliberately injuring oneself as a way to cope with emotional pain. This can include cutting, burning, scratching, or hitting oneself. While it may provide temporary relief, it doesn’t address the underlying emotional distress and can lead to further harm over time.
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Myths vs. Facts About Self-Harm
There are several misconceptions about self-harm that can prevent people from seeking help. Let’s break them down:
Myth: People who self-harm just want attention.
Fact: Many people who self-harm do so in private and feel deep shame about their actions. It’s a coping mechanism, not a plea for attention.
Myth: Only teenagers self-harm.
Fact: While self-harm is common among adolescents, adults of all ages can struggle with it as well.
Myth: Self-harm means someone is suicidal.
Fact: While self-harm can be linked to suicidal thoughts, not everyone who self-harms wants to end their life. However, it is a sign of emotional distress that should be taken seriously.
Who Does Self-Harm Affect and Why?
Self-harm can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or background. It is often linked to mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, or eating disorders. People may engage in self-harm as a way to:
Relieve emotional pain or numbness
Gain a sense of control
Express emotions they struggle to verbalize
Distract from overwhelming thoughts
The Risks of Self-Harm
While self-harm may provide temporary relief, it carries serious risks, including:
Infections and scarring – Repeated self-injury can cause long-term physical damage, leading to lasting scars and potential medical complications.
Increased emotional distress – Relying on self-harm as a coping mechanism can reinforce negative emotions and make it harder to develop healthy ways to handle stress.
Accidental severe injury – Even if someone does not intend to cause serious harm, self-injury can sometimes lead to unintended medical emergencies.
Isolation and shame – Many people who self-harm feel deep shame, which can lead to further emotional struggles and social withdrawal.
The Role of Mental Health in Self-Harm
Self-harm is not about seeking pain but about managing emotional turmoil. Addressing the root causes—such as trauma, stress, or mental health disorders—is essential in helping someone heal. Professional support, therapy, and healthy coping mechanisms like mindfulness, creative outlets, and physical activity can be life-changing.
Tip: If you’re struggling with self-harm, try writing down your feelings before acting on them. This is a healthier way to externalize the discomfort. Plus, journaling can help you process emotions and identify patterns in your thoughts.
Finding Help and Support
If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, know that help is available. Talking to a mental health professional, reaching out to a trusted friend, or joining a support group can be a vital step toward recovery. You are not alone, and healing is possible.
Let’s continue to break the stigma and support those in need. If you need help, contact a crisis helpline or a mental health professional today.
Texting helpline: FREE Support for Self-Injury | Text SH to 741741
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